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  In a kingdom far far away, there lives a princess who has amassed massive wealth that she doesn't know what to do with it. One day, she wakes up in the middle of the night and wonders how she could keep her wealth and multiply it through generations to come. In this kingdom, there lives a man named Billy. Billy is acquainted with the queen and this happened through the Duke of Walaa; Daal. The Duke of Walaa, has a very strong connection to the queen. They grew up together in the same village but were raised by the same parents pretty far away from the kingdom. (but that's a story for another day). So as you can see, Daal is almost like a brother to the queen, and he had introduced Billy to her back in the day, before she knew she was in line for the throne. (She always knew she was royalty but not about being in the line up for the throne). The introduction was meant to get Billy in her good graces, so she could help him out considering she was one of the wealthy women in the

Disclaimer: This is based on my opinion and experiences and those of others that I've gotten a privilege to get their insight on this particular topic. I was thinking on the concept of love/ marriage and we had a somewhat epiphany.  Why do people get married? But first we will start with love. How or why do people fall in love? Has a partner ever asked you, "why do you love me?" What exactly happens to you when someone asks that question/ what goes on in your mind? Why do you love them as much as you do? This is a question we need to ask ourselves whenever we feel our hormones raging. Why them? I think it's important to ask ourselves this, because then we won't struggle as much as we do with relationships.  You can chose to love someone purely based on hormones or you can choose to love someone based on hormones and  logic (highly recommended and let's be honest, attraction has to be there). When you love someone based on purely hormones, you can't even ex

  I was recently reminiscing about the Marvel movies I watch and how these superheroes manage themselves and their powers. It can easily be seen how there are a few individuals who struggle with harnessing theirs which can ultimately bring chaos if left unchecked. I'll give an example of Cyclops in the X-Men. Cyclops is a member of a subspecies of humans known as mutants, who are born with superhuman abilities.  He emits powerful beams of energy from his eyes, and can only control the beams with the aid of special eyewear which he MUST  wear AT ALL TIMES . This special eyewear was made for him when he met Professor X, who mentored him and helped him.  Now, some of us are like cyclops. We need to learn to harness our power and we need special tools for that (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual). Otherwise, if we go unchecked we could wreck havoc in our lives and probably destroy other people's lives too, intentionally or not. We all know how most humans struggle with acceptin

For the first time in a long while I checked my Facebook account and got flooded with notifications: pictures and posts of some of the people I used to know getting married/gotten married  or engaged  and I started to wonder why people do things the way they do them. I have been reading a book that has made me question most of the beliefs and traditions that I've grown up with. Honestly, it has made me unlearn a lot of ways I was accustomed to. There's an example about a dinner recipe where you find a family has been cutting off the turkey legs and cooking them separately and putting the rest of the meat in the oven and they've been doing this for the longest time. So a visitor asked why they do that and they said, it's been a tradition in their family since their great grandmother's time. But the visitor asked again "why?" This family thought about this and realized they didn't really know why. All they knew is that it has been a thing in their family

Do you ever hear a voice in your head giving you a hard time about something you've done or failed to do? Making you beat yourself up to the point you think yourself a failure? I know I have.  We tend to be very hard on ourselves when we find that choices made/ words said have a "negative" impact or weren't received well by others. It probably rubbed someone the wrong way or was taken out of context and we look for ways to ease the discomfort and they usually err on the negative. What exactly happens?  What causes us to value the opinion of others more than ours? What makes us trust another person's opinion over our own? Do they really know better than we do? Are their decisions more informed than ours? I have a theory and I believe it has a lot to do with the mindset inculcated in us ever since we were born. We were taught to behave a certain way when around people (the dos and don'ts), what to say, how to say it and when to say it. Being our true selves is c

What is self-soothing, how do we find ourselves as adults doing it and how do we best manage? In my understanding, self-soothing is where we try to calm ourselves/ regulate our emotions the best way we know how. It's how we find ourselves managing with either disappointments, hurt, loss, just to mention a few. We mostly self-sooth when we don't know how to manage a particular situation at a particular time. In honest truth, I find it a form of reaction when we don't know what our response "should be"  and that is why most times you find most people resulting to drinking alcohol, others find solace in working out, some even hide in their work. Self-soothing can be a very important trait for our wellbeing emotionally, but it can also be socially inappropriate or even self-injurious; these are what we term as negative self-soothing habits.  Some examples of the negative self-soothing habits where you find someone trying to feel better by hurting themselves are: the n