VICTIM AND THE JUDGE; DEPRESSION
Do you ever hear a voice in your head giving you a hard time about something you've done or failed to do? Making you beat yourself up to the point you think yourself a failure? I know I have. We tend to be very hard on ourselves when we find that choices made/ words said have a "negative" impact or weren't received well by others. It probably rubbed someone the wrong way or was taken out of context and we look for ways to ease the discomfort and they usually err on the negative. What exactly happens? What causes us to value the opinion of others more than ours? What makes us trust another person's opinion over our own? Do they really know better than we do? Are their decisions more informed than ours? I have a theory and I believe it has a lot to do with the mindset inculcated in us ever since we were born. We were taught to behave a certain way when around people (the dos and don'ts), what to say, how to say it and when to say it. Being our true selves is c